Division of labour
December 2, 2011Posted by on
Since it seems like a lot of people are looking at this blog, even though I’ve posted exactly once this month, I thought I’d better write something for you all to read (waving at people who visit but never, ever comment. Why? Did I do something wrong? How can I fix it?)
On to today’s discussion. It’s all about housework, which I know you all are thrilled about.
The boy and I have been cohabiting (living together? sharing a house? it all seems a bit sordid, really) for nearly six years now. When I moved in with him, we never had a discussion about jobs around the house. Over time, our list of jobs has evolved and now they are divided up like this.
Me: cooking, laundry and ironing, checking the letterbox, grocery shopping.
Him: dishes, taking out the rubbish, killing creepy crawlies, feeding cats, changing cat litter trays.
We pay a very nice woman and her husband to do our cleaning. I used to do it, but resented spending half of my weekend scrubbing toilets or showers or whatever, so we solved that problem quickly enough. I think boys and girls have different levels of dirt tolerance, so to save any arguments we get an impartial party to deal with it!
I do the cooking because the boy CAN NOT COOK to save his life. He tried making pancakes once, using a recipe I gave him, and under strict supervision, and they were inedible. Neither of us could explain it. I do, however, make him give me suggestions about what to cook, because when it comes to cooking dinner every night of the week, 54% of the battle is deciding what to cook. And he is very good about saying we’ll go out or get takeaway if I decide I am incapable of cooking every now and then. I also the laundry because I am the only one who considers it a good idea not to put every single item of clothing in one load of washing and turn it on hot, then dump everything in the dryer.
As for the grocery shopping, the boy comes with me every other time I go, and of course it costs me twice as much when he does. But he helps and it’s all good. He is also in charge of bringing the bags of shopping in from the car, and putting things in the fridge and freezer.
So I have no complaints about the division of labour in our house. How does it work in yours?
p.s. I will be absent for a while longer as we’re moving house on Monday and Tuesday. I know, I can hardly believe it myself. I’ll try and take pictures.